I don't want to play house.

I posted about my husband drinking & abusiveness problems last year on here. He went to the treatment at Frederiksberg hospital and stopped drinking for 4 months and now he starts again.
Up till now he didn’t physically attach me (he did that before) but his drinking habit scared me as I don’t know when he will start to be an aggressive person again.
I’ve been trying my best to keep our marriage and I always be there for him as he is my husband after all.
His job is traveling around the world and he drinks while he is traveling. It isn’t an easy job and he has loads of pressure on him. But this is the job that he chooses to do and I have nothing to say.
Now I have a serious decision to make because he promises me to stop drinking completely but he didn’t keep his promises. I come to the point that I don’t think by me being here with him, will do any good for him or for myself. He keeps on drinking and I keep on suffering. So, I think I better leave him.
It’s sad because in life he has achieved many good things, financially and socially. I know that when I leave him, it’s going to be painful and that will take time for both of us to get over it but this is life and I must move on.
I’m giving up trying even thou’ I still love him but I have no choice.
I don’t want to play house no more……
Ps.Sorry to you guys that I post in English because I’m poor in writing Danish. Hope it’s ok.
Pps. I just need to get it out off my chest.
Ppps. Thanks for reading it and any comments are welcome, but be kind please. I’m hurt enough.

You have to leave him. It's the right thing to do and it sounds like you have made your mind up to do so. You shouldn't put yourself through any more and I think that yor are very brave!
Don't be a victim, you can't change someone who doesn't want to change himself.
All the best to you I hope that you'll get over this hard time in your life.

I'm afraid there's no other way than leaving. My father had a similar problem with alcohol. He stopped drinking about four or five times just to start again a few months later.
There's no way you can make him stop if the proffessional treatment doesn't work.
Your only hope is that you leaving will make him understand how serious his situation is. Then again, he still may not understand.
Anyway, the only right thing to do is leave, you cab gain nothing by staying. It will cause harm to you, and mean nothing to him.
Sorry
Best of luck

rejste jeg over hele Danmark, og var til sidst næsten aldrig hjemme, det var det jeg ville, men jeg fik valget at opgive jobbet elle miste kone og børn. Jeg valgte familien, men det kostede mig karrieren.

And maybe suddenly one day, we are in a point of no return.
And as I see it, you really have done what you coul´t do, to safe the marrige whit this man. I have been there for many years... and no matter how you try, It´s just keep getting whorser for you. That´s how I read this. Your the one who have to life whit the whorst pain.
He keeps finding his way to live his life in the bottle. I gave up my life whit the man I whas living whit for many years. And now I have been on my owm for over a year now, and I never regret a single moment that I did it.
To sit on the sideline and see your life just pas by you, mostly whit payn, is not a way to live our life. This is not the purpus whit this, one and only we have.
When they keep going back to the bottle. I dont see any purpus in staing. What ever it takes to get on living a normal and happy life for you, it´s a chance you have to grap. Now you have to think of your selfe. And for the matter your children, if there are any. This is not a life for them.
I think that you have been very brave! You have been there for him, but he didn´t crap the hand and the chance you gave to him. As I see it, this kind of men is not worth any more trying. I really do understand that your feed up being a house wife. Who have to be affraid and sad, and live a life whit constant feer over, how the man are to day. Is it a good or a bad day today. Too bee a wife, dont mean that we have to put our own live a side.
It was a point of my live I came to suddely one day. And as I seen it, you have done your part of the promis in getting married, and he have not fullfeldt his.
You wrote that you are hurt enough and I really can put me in this kind of hurt, and I send you all my whishes and hopes for you, that you will find a way.
I hope this is for you to read, I didn´t find my dictonary, I really did my best ;o) And I thought it maybee, would be easyer for you in english.
I here send to you.. -for me some important word:

"Today is a really important day,
because tomorrow it is gone"
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"You need to feel alive - to stay alive"
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It´s a sunny day and I hope you will have a good one, whit a smile to you from me.

/Mummi

Nothing comes easy.
Just remember that many people take alcohol the same way others take medicine.
Ask why, just like Tammy W does.
and follow your heart.
even if,s it,s going to hurt, life,s just sucks in between, and answers dont come easy.
Good luck.
Best regards
Tom